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Dr Alexis shares her transformation from overwhelm and frustration to living her healthy "dream life" on autopilot. And how having me, Dr Orlena as a coach made it easy and fun.
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[00:00:00] Dr Orlena: Hello, and welcome to fit and fabulous with me, Dr. Lena character. This is a bonus episode. I wanted to show you a little bit of behind the scenes in my business and what I do with clients and working on pit with people with. So today we're going to be chatting to Alexis who is one of my clients. And she's going to be telling you a little bit of why she decided she wanted to coach and the reality of working with a coach and what a difference it makes working with a coach.
[00:02:57] Dr Orlena: Hello, and welcome to another episode of fit and fabulous with me, Dr. Orlena Kerek. Today, we're doing something a little bit different. We're going to be talking to Alexis, who is one of my coaching clients, and she's going to be telling us a little bit about what it's like to be coached. So Alexis welcome and thank you for being.
[00:03:21] Dr Orlena: Thank you for having me. What do you like to just start by telling us a little bit about yourself?
[00:03:25] Alexis: Sure. So I am a, I live in London. I'm a dentist. I am a mum of two a three-year-old and a five-year-old and I'm Australian. You can probably hear from my accent, but as I say, we moved to, I moved to England about 15 years ago.
[00:03:42] Alexis: So I've been here a while now.
[00:03:43] Dr Orlena: I love your accent. Yeah. Thanks. We first met. Well, I say met, we've never actually met until September. We're going to meet in September, but we first met online when you were worried about your children and the amount of sugar they were taking in. So do you want to talk a little bit about.
[00:04:03] Alexis: Yeah. Sure. So, so, so part of my background as well is that I have a doctorate in public health. And so I am very aware of my children's diet and, and it was concerning the, I guess that I had the knowledge that my daughter was, my daughter in particular should be eating differently. But yeah. Quite know how to apply that to a small child who didn't necessarily want to eat the things that I wanted her to eat.
[00:04:31] Alexis: So I, I had the academic knowledge but I needed help in the application of that into real life situations.
[00:04:39] Dr Orlena: Fabulous. And for those of you who don't know my, what should I say? Previous persona? I have another website which is about parenting and how to help children eat healthily. So that's where I first met Alexis.
[00:04:52] Dr Orlena: And then when I opened up doors to do one-on-one coaching, Alexis said, yes, me. So can you remember, can you take us back to where you were? I think it was last December. And what issues you were facing then?
[00:05:07] Alexis: Sure. So I guess, well, the kids were young. I still young and. But I felt as though with the ages that they were, I was just starting to sort of poke my head up, you know, how you feel like there's a fog.
[00:05:23] Alexis: And then I was just starting to come out of it and be able to think about myself again as a person. And I just felt like I was so. In a rut with what I was eating and how I felt and what actually really appealed to me about you was I really liked the title I liked getting fabulous and it was the right demographic.
[00:05:49] Alexis: I was around around 40 and I just, I liked that there wasn't a focus on weight loss in particular, although that's absolutely what I wanted. But I liked the focus on health and feeling good. So yeah, so I was just, I was just, I remember eating loads of crisps and chocolates and again, with the academic knowledge that I had, I found it.
[00:06:11] Alexis: So I was so frustrated with myself because I know that that's not what I'm supposed to eat and, but I just couldn't apply it to myself. And I should also say it wasn't, I wasn't overweight. I was still within a healthy weight category if you looked at my BMI, but I just felt so annoyed
[00:06:29] Dr Orlena: with. So those were the emotions sort of frustration.
[00:06:34] Dr Orlena: And how do I take the next step? So then we started working together. What was your experience of working with me?
[00:06:45] Alexis: I loved it, obviously
[00:06:51] Dr Orlena: that you think it helped having someone there. To talk to. So on one level you can say, we just meet up and we chat a little bit, but how did that change what you were doing? I
[00:07:01] Alexis: think it held me accountable. So at every session you would say to me, or how did this go? How did this go? And I thought, oh God, I've forgotten that I was supposed to do that or whatever it was, I would forget, or I, you know, something hadn't gone.
[00:07:14] Alexis: Right. And then I had to actually think of why that hadn't worked and what, what had happened. So that was great. 'cause I think if I, if I obviously I've tried to sort of eat healthier before, but I've never done it with a one-on-one person who is then gonna come back and ask me, how did this go and what happened with this?
[00:07:36] Alexis: And so, and also the other thing which I really found was good was that the coaching, the S the sessions were not just a short period of time. So often I'm fine to do something for. And, but then I sort of forget that I'm supposed to be doing something different. And so the, the regular kind of check-ins over a longer period of time reminded me, oh, that's right.
[00:08:00] Alexis: I'm supposed to be doing this, or I've agreed to do this because I wanted to do this. And, and it just was that reminder over a longer period of time, which is long enough to build a habit. And then now I probably don't need them, or I need a line reminders, the other things now
[00:08:13] Dr Orlena: that's very interesting.
[00:08:15] Dr Orlena: And I do think. Creating habits so that we don't have to think about things. There's really the goal of whatever change we want to make. So you started to lose weight. How did that feel?
[00:08:28] Alexis: Great. Excellent. I started to get lovely comments from other people. And yeah, so my initial kind of goal was to fit into a certain pair of jeans that were way too tight.
[00:08:40] Alexis: And we achieved that actually pretty quick. And that
[00:08:43] Dr Orlena: was it easy to achieve or do you feel like you really had to deprive yourself make an effort?
[00:08:49] Alexis: No, it was very, it was easy. It was really easy and it wasn't rocket science. It's not rocket science. It's so funny. It wasn't, there was no kind of crazy, like only eating this food with this food or, you know, there's all the crazy diets and stuff.
[00:09:03] Alexis: And it really wasn't, it was just easy.
[00:09:07] Dr Orlena: And do you like the way you eat. Yes,
[00:09:10] Alexis: absolutely. So it's interesting. Cause my parents are staying with us. They're visiting from us. So they're staying with us at the moment. And so my mum has been cooking and she's a great cook, but she doesn't, I sat down to a meal last night and I had cooked it and I just thought it was all just all the stuff that I like or that I had to, I guess, come to like over the last year.
[00:09:33] Alexis: And it was just fresh and healthy and lovely. And I just, it was like a relief. So yes, I really enjoyed.
[00:09:40] Dr Orlena: That's really interesting as well. And I think part of that is habit. And I wonder if some of that is our biome. I recorded a podcast on our biome recently, all those organisms we have in our gut. And I think the more healthy you eat, more vegetables, you eat the less processed food you eat.
[00:09:59] Dr Orlena: Actually, the more you crave that fresh, healthy food, which just makes it easier for. Yeah, absolutely. And so do you see yourself now sticking to this way of eating and eating like this forever? Yeah, definitely. And do you as well feel that you know where that limited so that you can have treats and things like that if you want, but they don't have that hold of you?
[00:10:24] Alexis: Yes. Although that is still there, I'm still learning that. So we had a. Goal a little while ago that I was going to give up chocolate for four weeks, which was really easy. Strangely easy for somebody who really quite likes chocolate. And then but then what I found is that I thought, okay, those four weeks are over and I didn't reintroduce it particularly well.
[00:10:46] Alexis: And, and every time I ate it, I was like, why am I doing this? I don't even want to. And so I had to learn that balance.
[00:10:55] Dr Orlena: I think that is something that we're constantly working on and looking at ourselves and just being aware. I think that's the first step. So we hit your first week goal and then decided that actually we were going to do some work on creating your amazing life and applying some of these tools to other areas of your life.
[00:11:19] Dr Orlena: So can you talk a little bit about that to us?
[00:11:22] Alexis: Sure. I guess I hadn't even really realized that that was an aspect of the work that you did. And I only discovered it listening to your podcast and, but it did make a lot of sense because I think a lot of what I got out of the weight coaching was just that I enjoyed the sessions.
[00:11:41] Alexis: Like I just felt good after the sessions. It's like a mini therapy session.
[00:11:49] Alexis: So I was just felt good after it. And I, I, I guess I noticed that there was improvements in other aspects of my life having just had worked with you. So then I came back and asked you specifically about life coaching or other, other, other things that we could focus on. And I've really enjoyed that.
[00:12:07] Alexis: Absolutely
[00:12:09] Dr Orlena: fabulous. Would you recommend me to other people? I say
[00:12:14] Alexis: yes, of course, of course. And I have, yes.
[00:12:17] Dr Orlena: Yes. So. To explain. I also work with Alexis's husband in the future in September, Alexis is coming here to my retreat. It's a very exclusive retreat, which is what open to other people if they want to come.
[00:12:35] Dr Orlena: But obviously it's here in Spain. And the idea behind that is we take a little bit of time out of. And focus on what we want to create in our lives. So that's going to be super exciting and I'm really looking forward to seeing you.
[00:12:49] Alexis: Yeah, me too. I'm looking forward to that a lot.
[00:12:51] Dr Orlena: Great. Do you have any other comments that you'd like to make about COVID.
[00:12:58] Alexis: And I think I haven't had, I haven't done coaching before. And I know that people have said to me at various points throughout my life, that it's a good idea to have, and I've never really understood why, because I've not had any particular problems that I really wanted to work on. But I guess everybody has, is not doing so.
[00:13:18] Alexis: Not doing everything perfectly at all times. There's always something that you can work on. And I think to have some help with that. Really nice, but fundamentally I just, I just enjoy it.
[00:13:30] Dr Orlena: Yeah. I always think the difference between having coaching and not having coaching is I always say people can get to where they want to go, but the difference is either walking there or taking the quick route and going into the car and, and the coaching is basically going in the car.
[00:13:46] Alexis: Yeah, no, absolutely. And there's definitely things that I can point to. Again, a lot of it is just. It's just changing thought patterns. So you will say to me, well, why, why don't you do this? And I will think, you know, afterwards at the time, but then afterwards, two weeks later, I'll do some action. And I think, why did I do that?
[00:14:05] Alexis: Because there was what's happened. And obviously subconsciously something that you've said to me has gone in, and then I've done some sort of action, which is, and, and then that's, that's been amazing for work or for kids or what, for whatever aspect it is. So, yeah, just it's like your fresh perspective and you can ask, you can see clearly what I'm doing because you're not in it and give some good advice.
[00:14:34] Dr Orlena: Yeah. Thank you. And I think that's really true. It's it's almost like your life is this bubble or hamster wheel and we keep going and we keep going and it's really easy to see other people's bubbles, but when you're inside it, it's difficult to see the outsider. Hmm. Yeah, absolutely. Fabulous. Do you want to just tell us about your dental practice?
[00:14:57] Alexis: Ah, thank you. Yes. So I'm based in London, as I said, and I work in as evidence. I'm a dentist. I work in, Onesworth, which is in Southwest London and Epsom, which is in, so. And if anybody would like to come and see me, they are very welcome. I think the, probably the easiest way to see some of my work is to have a look on Instagram which I've only just started on Instagram and I'm just getting used to how that works.
[00:15:23] Alexis: But if you look up Alexis Zander dentist, and you can follow me there and then you can get in contact if you want.
[00:15:29] Dr Orlena: Fabulous. And I recommend everybody BDO to the dentist regularly and get your teeth cleaned as well as checked up. Thank you so much.
[00:15:40] Alexis: Thank you.
[00:15:46] Dr Orlena: So thank you once again, Alexis for coming on, it's super exciting to get a little feel of behind the scenes. Thank you for listening. If you enjoy. Episode, please share it with your friends and please leave a review on iTunes. And if you're interested in coaching and want to just chat a little bit to me about it, then feel free to get in contact or even books that discovery call.
[00:16:09] Dr Orlena: And you can find the link on the show notes, or if you want to just email me or contact me, then that's perfectly fine too. Okay, fabulous. See you next week.
Dr Orlena is a health coach. She helps busy mums go from "I can't lose weight" to feeling fit and fabulous. Find out more about her here.