The statistics are grim. So many people who set out to lose weight and make healthy changes return to their old habits.
Why is that?
Dr Orlena looks at 9 reasons you're likely to go back to your old habits.
And one sure fire way to make sure you don't.
Hello and welcome to Fit and Fabulous with me, Dr. Orlena Kerek. I hope that you're feeling fabulous.
It is high summer here. It's hot! I wonder if I'm quiet you can hear the crickets or the cicadas in the background.
Today, I want to talk to you about one short fire away on how to be successful when you want to make healthy changes, lose weight, get healthy, or whatever it is that you want to.
Statistics say that it is really difficult to make sustainable changes. People who try to make healthy changes have a hard time making it happen. When I talk to people, a lot of times what they explain is lack of motivation.
It starts with a vision or a goal such as:
But then life happens and then you think, “Hey, you know what? This isn't going to happen. Let's just keep doing the same things.”
You create these baby habits. But then life happens you go back to where you were like an elastic band.
And you think “I had these habits. What happened?”
The reality is you didn't have those habits. They are just habits that you're trying to make.
You had little seedling habits. And what you need is habits that are unshakable like oak trees. When life happens, you turn to your healthy habits.
Another way of looking at it is you just haven't got far enough across the rickety bridge.
There are so many reasons why this happens. Take a look at this list and see if any of them resonate with you. Then I will tell you one sure far away to fix all of them.
Hands up. If this is you? You have a hard time crossing the rickety bridge between creating new healthy habits and staying with your old unhealthy habits.
I see this in so many people and I see this in myself as well.
You think that there is this one magic solution and if you can just find this magic solution, everything will fall into place. But that is not the case.
I sit and chat to people and they say, ‘I'm eating quite healthily. I eat lots of vegetables.’
But then the more we chat the more I realize that they also have a lot of carbohydrates cravings and they're eating also eating loads of sugar like ice cream.
The reality is you have to look at everything that you're eating.
There's always room for improvement.
This is why I made my Four Pillars of Healthy Living.
The pillars are eating sleeping, exercising, and our emotions and mindset.
If you're trying to do something and you're not getting there, then one of those four things needs to change. It may not be the eating aspect.
So many studies show that if you have accountability, you're more likely to keep going.
There are times when life happens; things get a little bit on top of us and our priorities shift. Suddenly something becomes more urgent like we have to take care of our elderly parents or our in-laws or something like that.
All these good habits that we're trying to build up just go to the wayside because of those other things happenning. And then we don't go back to them.
But when you have accountability, you have somebody saying to you, ‘Hey, remember that you're doing this and you just need to get back on track and keep going.’
This is slightly similar to accountability.
If you hang out with people who are trying to achieve the same thing as you, you're far more likely to succeed.
For example, if you want to give up smoking, don't go and hang out with your smoking friends who are going to offer you a cigarette, hang out with your friends who don’t smoke.
Most of you know that eating healthily is all about eating loads of vegetables. But then when the time comes that they have to prepare for a meal, they don't have those vegetables at hand.
It doesn't have to be difficult when you've got the systems, habits, and routines in place.
We are basically held hostage by our kids who really just want to eat all the yummy delicious glucose. I call kids glucose seeking missiles, and we get backed into a corner because we want to feed our kids and we want them to be happy.
But they refuse to eat all the healthy stuff that we want to eat. We either end up creating two meals or we just eat what they want.
This is related to my pillar number four which is mindset. When you think about having healthy habits as easy and fun. It becomes easy and fun.
But when you listen to that voice that says, ‘Oh, this is hard. I can't do it.’ You’ll find that it is hard.
This speaks to everybody but particularly to you, mothers out there, who don't think you're important enough to look after.
When we have our children, our brains and bodies basically adapt to look after this tiny baby who needs our care and attention 24 hours a day. We might have people to help us, but essentially that is our job.
As the baby gets older, they become more autonomous. They need less of our help. But we still have that mindset of ‘My child needs me’.
We almost have to retrain ourselves into taking care of ourselves once more.
The best thing we can give our children is our own happiness. And the second best thing is vegetables. And I genuinely believe that. I think when we are happy and healthy, we have far more energy to give to our children.
We are also demonstrating to them, how to be happy and healthy. Children learn by copying us. So if we demonstrating happiness and healthy habits, that's what our kids learn.
Take care of yourself. Do it for your children.
I decided that while they were having their swimming classes, I was going to go swim ming as well. I realized that I can fit in a 45-minute swim once a week, and I've gradually built and built on that.
I know if you have young kids, it can be super difficult because you can't leave them, but there are other things that you can do and you can build in little bits of self-care during the day.
What is the number one sure-fire way to get to healthy?
Come and work with me.
My clients are amazing. They have made a commitment to themselves and they are on that journey to becoming more healthy, and they are rocking it.
It’s not always easy. If it was easy all the time, they wouldn't need me to help them. And we wouldn't be having this conversation, but when it's not easy, they have me to help them get through those moments. When they get through those moments, they make so much progress. They keep on going until they live their amazing, healthy lives.
When you have somebody on your side helping you out, it makes it easy for you. A coach holds you accountable, makes it fun and enjoyable and shows you how you can do it in an easy and different way that fits with your life.
It starts with us getting to know each other. I'll be totally upfront with you. There are some people I cannot work with. If you're not prepared to make any changes, I can't help you.
So it starts with the chat. And that chat is called the Roadmap to Healthy, Amazing You. I can tell you about my one-on-one programs and my group program.
Right now is an amazing time to get into my group program because not only have I extended it, I've also put a special introductory price on that. It is just an amazing opportunity to get in there right at the beginning.
Book a call with me and you can get your roadmaps. Even if you don't end up working with me, you will walk away with clarity and knowledge of what step to take next.
So I hope this was useful and I will see you next week.
Podcast Episode 80: My Proven Method to Teach Kids Healthy Eating Without the Fuss: https://www.drorlena.com/blog/my-proven-method-to-teach-kids-healthy-eating-without-the-fuss-podcast
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Dr Orlena is a health coach. She helps busy mums go from "I can't lose weight" to feeling fit and fabulous. Find out more about her here.