Ever tried a new diet and it didn't work? You felt deflated, demoralised and as if nothing works for you.
The good news is that you aren't a hopeless case.
You have a human body and mind!
Today Dr Orlena looks at 3 simple but powerful reasons why your human body isn't losing weight.
And how you can easily fix those reasons!
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Hello, and welcome to fit and fabulous with me, Dr. Orlena Kerek. I hope that you are feeling amazing today. It is high summer here in Spain, and I am so grateful and so glad that I have the sea near me because it quite frankly just keeps me sane.
On Sunday, I don't go swimming. I don't do a long swim. So it's over 24 hours before I've been in the seat and I noticed myself. Just getting a little bit edgy and a little bit stressed with life. So this Sunday I went and just did a, a short three minute swim. I saw the most amazing octopus. It was fabulous. And that just helps me get back to “my amazing self” as I like to call it.
Okay. Today I want to talk about three simple things, three simple reasons why you aren't losing weight. But before we get into that, just to tell you what is going on , in the world of Dr Orlena. First of all, as ever, we are having, oh, so much fun in the Facebook group. I am doing 30 days of healthy living made easy.
So 30 days of short Facebook lives, where we just have a little tip every single day and amazingly I am giving out prizes. I'm giving out. A prize, which is the Dr. Orlena’s Magic Likes and Dislikes exercise. Now you have not heard of this exercise. Well, number one, where have you been? I'm always going on about it and it is absolutely magic.
It is an exercise that helps you either turn up or turn down a like, or dislike. So for example, you might decide that you want to stop eating pretzels. I've had so many people who specifically want to stop eating. Or crisps or chips or one particular thing that you just think, oh my goodness, this takes over my life a little bit.
And if I could stop eating that, it would be much easier. I've also done it on people who want to eat healthier things. So for example, I did it on my eight year old son, actually, who didn't use to like red apples. And now he loves red apples. I've done it on a client who didn't didn't like blueberries.
And by the end of 30 minutes, she was eating blueberries. So it is absolutely like magic. It's not really magic. Of course. Um, and normally I charge $299 for it, but you can win it. All you have to do is go to the Facebook group and comment on today's Facebook live. And after the people who comment, I will pick one winner.
Come and comment in the FB Group and you'll win one of them. It will be fabulous to chat.
So let's have a think about. “Three simple reasons why you aren't losing weight now?” Three simple things.
The first thing I see is, well, I was talking to a client the other day and she was saying to me:
“oh my goodness, I feel like a failure.I try so many things and nothing seems to work. And I just, I give up .”
Hands up, who feels that they have been like, there you try something and it doesn't work and you think, oh my goodness, this isn't working. I'm a failure. There's something wrong with my body. I just can't do this. And then you try the next thing. And the next thing, and the next thing, it's almost like you're looking for this secret solution that is out there.
So what is going on here? That my friends is “the easy thing. Number one”.
The biggest and the hardest challenge to weight loss is in your brains.
And in response to my client, I said:
“You aren't a failure and things aren't going wrong. Things are going exactly right. But you just are not far enough on the journey yet. So have a think about it. Like you're flying from New York to Barcelona. It's a long day. And so far, you've got to sit at the airport and that's fine. You're on your way to Barcelona, but you just have to keep going. You just have to keep going.”
And there are times when it feels tough to keep going. I'm being honest with you here now. So many people want instant weight loss, and we will talk about that at the end of the podcast, but so many people want really quick instant results, but the key is to find on going results. And this starts in your brain.
So that's why my pillar number four… So just to recap, to remind you of my four pillars, number one, you attrition, number two, exercise and movement, number three, sleep and number four, emotional wellness and emotional wellness includes how we think and our emotions and everything sort of totally. And if you haven't got your mindset sorted out, nothing is going to work.
Have a think of this when my son was little and he was learning to ride a bicycle, he would be saying, I can't do it. I can't do it. I can't do it. And I would look at him and go, Hmm, you seem to be able to do the peddling bet and you seem to be able to do. The, the kicking off bit. So what bit of it, can't you do exactly his twin in contrast where it's like, oh, I can do this.
And she jumps on a bike and she goes, despite the fact that probably until that moment, she'd never really done it before, but her twin brother is busy going. I can't do it. I can't do it. And I'm looking at him objectives and going, you can do it. I can see you doing it. But his brain is so busy telling him that he can't do it.
That he can't do it because he stops himself from doing it. And it's exactly the same with healthy living, losing weight. And applying healthy living habits. So he's busy going, I can't do it. I can't do it. And until he lets go of that thought he can't do it now. How do you let go of that thought? That is an interesting question.
And sometimes it can just be, we demonstrate it to ourselves. So he manages to do enough cycling. Such that he goes, oh yeah, I can do it. But he would, it would take him such a long time. I remember running behind him on the bike and trying to keep up with him and he's peddling and I'm like, oh, I'm going to let go, because he's doing it really well.
And he's like: “don't let go. Don't let go. I can't do it”.
And it's like, “of course you can do it. You are doing it”.
So this is the power of our brain. And I know that it feels like, oh my goodness, it's just our brain. These are just the thoughts that we tell ourselves, but they are so powerful. If you can be constantly telling yourself that you can do it, that showing up does make a difference.
You are going to be there and you're going to do it, and you're going to continue on that journey and you're going to succeed. There is no reason why you can't succeed other than you just don't stick out it long enough so that my friend is easy. Problem number one, easy solution. Number one is look at how you're thinking about things and look at your mindset and really pay attention to that pillar.
Number four, which is the foundation pillar, and without putting that in place, the other three pillars, aren't going to do anything. So it doesn't matter if you change how you eat or you decide to do more exercise, you may start off going, oh, I feel so motivated. This is amazing. I'm going to eat healthily.
I'm going to exercise. Until you hit that brick wall, which is your brain going, this isn't working. I can't do it. And then you stop. So you have to pay attention to pillar. Number four, you have to pay attention to how you think and your emotions. So that is reason. Number one. What is reason? Number two reason.
Number two is you're not looking at the long picture, the long goal, as I say, so many people want quick results. But you need to look at the long-term picture. Think about 10 years from now and think about what happens if you make absolutely zero changes, where are you going to be in 10 years time? Well, I can't answer that for you, but you can have a think about it.
And essentially if you carry on doing the same things, you're going to be in the same situation, possibly worse, but if you start making those changes now, where are you going to be in 10 years? 10 years is a long, long time people totally overestimate the amount of work things that they can achieve in a short period of time.
And they underestimate what they can do in 10 years time or in a long period of time. And you can achieve. And I think in 10 years, not literally anything, but you can achieve amazing things. So you can lose that weight to get to the body. You want to be healthy. Do all of those things that you want to do with your children, your grandchildren, or just by yourself.
I want to go hiking. I want to be able to move my body. I want to have good health later on in life. And you can achieve those things. You just need to look at the bigger picture and think about sustainability. So how does this show up? Now, well, so many people do that. I'm going to try this diet, this amazing solution.
And I'm going to cut out certain amount of foods or I'm going to deprive myself. That is not going to work in the long run. Now, if you want to lose weight, you need to change what you're eating. Because if you carry on eating the same way, you're going to get the same results and you know what those results are.
Those results are. This is the weight I've got and you may or may not be putting on. So you have to change how you eat, but you don't need to do it in a way that is either counting calories or depriving yourself. You have to find the way that works for you. Now, I can't tell you exactly what that looks like without chatting to you.
So if you want to chat, I'll tell you how you can chat to me, um, in a little bit.
Solution number two is to look at the long picture and I would say, be ready to make changes to, and the changes don't have to be difficult. They don't have to be hard. They can be easy and simple and fit in your life. And once you've got that pillar four sorted out that mindset sorted out, then it will be much easier for you to make changes, but you do need to make changes in the way that you eat.
And then you need to make changes in the way that team. And also you need to often make changes in the way that you sleep. And again, I can't really specify exactly what that looks like for you without chatting to you.
Now, if you want to lose weight, the third issue is this. You need to give your body the opportunity to use fat stores as energy.
And on one level there seems like, oh my goodness, clearly that's so easy, but on another level, People don't really think about this. They think, oh, I'm going to cut out this. I'm going to cut out that I don't ever want to be hungry. I want it all to be like this. And they don't think about, when am I giving my body the opportunity to use its energy as fat, because that is the only way that you can get rid of the fat is to use it.
Unless of course you want to have it chopped out. Essentially you have to use your fat and really, and truly, this is how our body is designed to work. Our bodies were designed to eat food, store food, get hungry and then use that food as energy.
As a society we've kind of forgotten about that because we live in times when food is so plentiful and we never really have to go without food.
And so what happens to a lot of people now is that they eat food. They store it, they eat a bit more, they store it, they eat a bit more and they carry on storing it without ever giving their body the opportunity to use those tools.
Now, what does that mean for you right now? Well, it kind of depends what, you know, again, without chatting to you, it's very difficult to be specific, but it might mean making sure that you're fasting overnight.
When I say fasting overnight, people sometimes get a bit scared, but essentially it means don't eat after dinner time, eat for dinner, have a rest rest of your body for 12 to 14 hours. Um, and. Then have your breakfast and you've given your body an opportunity use of mat. It's super easy. It doesn't have to be complicated.
It might be that you want to do some exercise. Exercise is another good way of, you know, getting your muscles, working, making them use a little bit more energy. So it depends. It's different for different people and there's different ways of doing it.
You have to find your own way, but the bottom line is if you carry on doing exactly what you do you're going to get the same results.
So my three easy things, simple things that you need to fix in order to lose weight. And number one, think about your mindset. You need to sort out your thinking and your emotions, our brains. Aren't so powerful. And you need to get them working for you. Not against you clearly.
They're not working against you. They're just on a different program. You're like we're changing the program that this is what we're doing. They're busy, but your brain is busy protecting you, keeping you safe and you want to say to it, okay. Safe is good. But now we want to do applying different things, losing weight, getting to a different stage in our life.
Your brain puts up a little bit of resistance because it wants to keep you safe and normal is safe. Familiar is safe and different is unknown and dangerous to your brain. And that's fine. Once you understand that it's easy to, to change how you think and how you feel. So that's number one. Number two is looking at the long picture and thinking about what you eat and making changes to how you eat, but in a sustainable way.
And number three is giving your body the opportunity to use it. So for different people, this looks slightly different.
You might be thinking, oh my goodness, that all sounds great, but what does that mean for me now? So if you're thinking that and you're thinking, okay, I need a little bit of help then come and book your healthy, sorry, roadmap to healthy youth session.
And essentially we chat about these things and we think, okay, what does it look like for you? What are your next steps look like? What does your roadmap to healthy? Amazing. You look like, how are you going to implement these things? So how far our session come and chat to me? I would love to chat to you. I will put the link in the show notes, and I hope that was useful.
Have a fabulous week. Oh. And come and join the Facebook group and your chance to win a Dr Orlena’s Magic Likes and Dislikes Exercise. I'll put that link in the show notes to see you again next week. Goodbye.
Dr Orlena is a health coach. She helps busy mums go from "I can't lose weight" to feeling fit and fabulous. Find out more about her here.