Making the transformation to "healthy amazing you" requires a good relationship with yourself.
If you're constantly mean to yourself and beating yourself up, you won't stick to new changes.
How do you improve your relationship with yourself?
Here's one fun and easy way!
Interested in joining Dr Orlena's Scholarship program? Email her at [email protected]
Hello, and welcome to the Fit and Fabulous Podcast with me, Dr. Orlena Kerek. I hope that you all feeling fabulous. It is the end of August. I have three months and a week left to go before I move back into our house.
Today I went swimming in the sea and on my way back, I looked under this rock and thought that is a funny looking shell which is perfectly smooth. I had a little look underneath and saw that it is an octopus. I can saw some little eyes there and it's wrapped itself up to look like a rock. Octopuses are super clever.
If you haven't listened to last week's episode, I'm revamping my group program. I have 10 scholarship places that I am offering and there are already two people who've already signed up to those scholarship places. They are super excited to get started on their transformation.
One of them said, “I'm thrilled to join the group and immerse myself in the experience. I look forward to seeing and feeling the changes.”
I’m super excited to get the club up and off the ground. The program is about creating healthy changes in your life in a way that is easy and fun, but more importantly sustainable.
It's a 12-week program, but with group coaching for a year. The whole point of the year is that you keep doing it. The changes that you make aren't secret. Let me just recap them: healthy eating, healthy exercise, healthy sleep, and healthy mindset. That's what we're working on, but it's the doing it bit that is so difficult.
The people in the club are going to be held accountable but they are also going to help each other get to the other side of the rickety bridge. It's going to be fun and amazing and I am super excited to see the changes in all of them.
If you are interested contact me and we will book a time to chat. So to be clear, the scholarship is not free but the price is worth 10 times the amount that you are paying for. It's amazing opportunity.
Today, I want to talk about pillar number four which is emotional wellness. I love this pillar because it is so interesting and there are always so much to talk about with this. Essentially this pillar is what I call the foundation, because it's easy for me to tell you to make changes in healthy eating, healthy exercise, and healthy sleep. But what happens is life gets in the way happens and people go back to their old unhealthy habits.
How do you talk to yourself? How do you treat yourself? Do you treat yourself with kindness and respect, or do you have that mean voice that is going on underneath everything that you do saying ‘You're not good enough. You're not worthy enough. You failed. You didn't do it well enough.’
That voice is the voice of despondency and all it is going to do is scupper all of your efforts and send you back to the beginning. It’s probably there in everybody, but we have to recognize it and rewrite it.
Instead, make the voice say ‘I am enough. I am worthy. I am amazing. I am worth spending the time and effort on making these changes. If I make these changes, I will feel amazing in my body. I will lead a long and healthy life and it will all be so easy and fun, and it just starts with the way that we think.’
But many of us have that mean voice.
Here is a little exercise that I would love you to do.
Every time you wake up in the morning, you go to the bathroom and look in the mirror. Quite often we don't even notice ourselves. We just sort of pass ourselves. But I want you to stop and pause and smile at yourself. Give yourself a wink, a high five, and say, I see you and I love you. You're amazing. You're enough.
We're always so kind to everybody else but we're mean to ourselves. Now it’s time to start being kind to yourself. If you forget to do it once, don't worry, just keep remembering and going back.
Over time you will build up that kindness with yourself and you will stop beating yourself up about all the things that you haven't done properly.
When you get to that space, it is so much easier to make changes. And then when you get there, you've got momentum behind you. If you launch a rocket into the sky, 80% of the energy is in getting it through the atmosphere. It's exactly the same when you're making changes.
It takes so much effort, so much mental energy to make healthy changes but after you've been doing it for a while, your momentum just carries you through. It becomes a habit.
It's a bit like riding a bike. My youngest son likes to slow down when he’s riding his bike and I keep trying to explain to him it's much easier if you ride a bike quickly.
If you try to ride a bike slowly, it just wobbles and you fall off. The momentum keeps you going. It helps you balance. But he slows down and slows down until he basically topples over and then he has to start all over again.
If you build up that momentum and keep going, and it's the same with your thoughts. Once you start smiling at yourself and saying, ‘You're great. You are worthy. You are worth investing time and energy.’ Then you just keep doing it.
Do the Mirror Challenge and share it in the Facebook group. If you are not in the Facebook group, why on earth not? It is a free resource and we're rocking it in there.
If you're interested in joining the Healthy You Healthy Family group program where people are going to be making amazing changes, don't delay, come and talk to me. I've already got a couple of chats lined up with people this week so come and chat and we'll see if it is a good fit for you.
Have a fabulous week!
Dr Orlena is a health coach. She helps busy mums go from "I can't lose weight" to feeling fit and fabulous. Find out more about her here.