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Why Weight Loss Frustration Is Actually a Good Sign: Your Breakthrough Is Closer Than You Think

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hello. Welcome to Fit and Fabulous with me, Dr. Orlena I'm super, super excited to chat to you today. I hope you had a fabulous Easter and that, oh my goodness. Summer is just around the corner. We have a really short term here in Spain, so we have the kids go back to school today. There are four days this week.

Next week we have three days, and then there's about three weeks. Another bank holiday, and then mid-June the kids break up. Oh my goodness. It feels like we are hurtling towards summer, which I'm excited about, but also a little bit like, oh my goodness, time is going so quickly. Today I want to talk to you about if you are feeling frustrated about weight loss or health, why this might be a really good thing.

So what am I talking about? It might be that you are feeling really frustrated because you want to lose weight and you feel like you are doing so many [00:01:00] of the things right? You feel like you are eating healthily, but the weight just isn't shifting or that you are exercising, but the weight that isn't shifting.

It might be that health is your goal and that you don't need to lose weight, but you know that you aren't doing things like you want to do. Now when we break it down a little bit further and think, okay, so you are eating reasonably healthily, but what is going on such that you are not losing weight? And it depends what your answer is.

Your answer might be, actually, do you know what? In the afternoon I end up eating chocolate and that's not great. Or I, go out and I socialize and I eat more stuff and that's not great. Now it doesn't really matter what. The situation is within reason, obviously, and without talking to you, I can't tell you exactly what I think.

But this is what I [00:02:00] call having a doing gap and not a knowledge gap. More or less what to do. And I caveat more or less because until I've talked to you then it's difficult to say exactly if you're doing things the best way possible. Now, on a side note, if you're not a hundred percent sure that you're doing things the best way possible, then what I recommend you do is watch my free video.

Stop dieting and start thriving. And in that video I explain my system that I use with my clients and the best system for either losing weight or for leading a long and healthy life. And the two of them are very closely connected. And I will tell you that I walk the walk, I talk the talk. This is how I lead my life.

So go watch that video if you haven't already, just to make sure that you are doing all the things. Because I do know that on the internet life is confusing. I see a lot of conflicting, information [00:03:00] about nutrition, about how to exercise, and it can be frustrating if, you know you are getting these mixed messages, what should I actually be doing?

So number one is go and just a hundred percent double check that you are doing that. You've got the system, the plan that you know is really gonna move the needle. Now coming back to if you're feeling really frustrated because it feels like you are doing things right, the good news is that you probably don't have to make heaps of changes to actually start things along.

So when I look at my clients and they come and they work with me and they say to me I don't really understand why what you're saying is anything so different from what I'm doing now. Or they might say to me this is great. It doesn't feel like I'm dieting. It doesn't feel like very much different from what I was doing before, but I'm getting results.

And I think the thing is, what [00:04:00] happens is we like to blame certain things in our brain. So for example, if you feel like you are eating healthily in general. And you think but the reason I'm not losing weight is because I'm eating chocolate or because I am socializing and I'm eating different things.

It might be that it's not actually those things that. Are making the big difference. It might be another small shift somewhere else that is going to make a big difference. And when I work with my clients, what I do is apply a system or I help them apply the system to their life. And the reality is they will make some changes, but the changes don't feel so amazingly big that it feels like you are dieting.

Or that you are doing something that you don't want to do, and this is really what it boils down to. It's number one, making sure that you have a system that works for you that is [00:05:00] really ticking all the boxes in terms of moving the needle. So it's a combination of what does science tell us? What are the best things to be doing?

And if you go on internet, Instagram or the social media, you will be told 10,000 billion things. I was watching a reel just before I started this, and it was saying, if you eat this with this, then you get this little boost. And if you eat this with this, then you get a little bit of boost. And I was thinking, that may be true. I'm not a hundred percent sure about all the words that they said, but does it actually make any difference? One of them was like, if you eat broccoli with garlic, then you increase your absorption of calcium. And I think that's great, but I don't have a problem with calcium. I eat a healthy diet and I get enough calcium, and so I don't need to think about these little minutia details.

If I wanted to eat garlic with broccoli, that's fabulous because it's tasty and it's great, but really. Going to the effort to pair them when I don't need to is [00:06:00] making my life more difficult. How about focusing on what I call the low hanging fruit? Now, if you don't know what I mean by that, it's the fruit that is easy to pick that is ripe and going to help you move the needle, essentially.

And I think that's what people don't do. What they don't do is what I call 80%. I don't expect anybody to do anything perfectly. What I do expect people to do is do things 80% consistently. So it doesn't have to be perfect, but you do need to reach a certain level and do that consistently.

How do you do that? You make a system that works for you. If. It doesn't work for you. If it's not something that you find easy and enjoyable, then you're not gonna do it. So when I finished my coaching sessions, I finished one yesterday and I said you've got a plan. Yes. Does it feel doable? Yes.

Does it feel enjoyable? [00:07:00] Yes. And if the answer is no to either of those questions, it's wait. Let's go back and have a think about why it either doesn't feel enjoyable or it doesn't feel doable, because those are major obstacles. And if somebody is telling you to do something that doesn't feel doable and it doesn't feel enjoyable you may do it for a little bit and you may even learn to enjoy it or to do it, but there's a big chance that you won't, and that is the danger.

So the keys to. Sustainability in terms of losing weight or being healthy. And there was a paper that was written by the Harvard Medical School, and this paper is called, oh, let me remember what it's called, how to Lose Weight and Keep It Off. I think something like that. And I love this paper because it is not a difficult paper to understand.

It's not one of your typical medical ones, which is written in medical speak. It's really aimed at. The public as opposed to aiming it at medical professionals. And essentially [00:08:00] in this paper, they identify two keys. They basically say there are loads of different ways of losing weight. You need to pick one that works for you.

You need to pick a system that works for you. Now, obviously, they're not talking about eating donuts the whole time. They're saying pick a wave of working, of losing weight that is actually going to help you lose weight. But pick one and stick to it. So the first key is having a system that works for you, and the second key is being able to stick to it.

Now, what they say is that you might need certain tools to be able to do that, but really this is about consistency. This is about creating a lifestyle that you enjoy and you think, yep, I can do this. This is something that. I enjoy. I want to do, I feel good, I have energy. I can see myself getting stronger and healthier.

I can see my body shape changing, and I can see that I am getting a body that I feel great in [00:09:00] and I feel great about. So that step two is really consistency. Keep going. And yes, you do need what they call power tools. I think I would call them mindset tools. A lot of it is how you think about it.

So another example. I saw a reel today and somebody was saying, you should go for a walk. You should do exercise first thing in the morning because this is gonna teach you that you can get up and do stuff that you don't like. I'm like, what? Wait. I get up and I exercise and I love exercising. Why? Because it's the best part of my day.

I love exercising. Why? Because I really enjoy it Now, I have built up the habit. I have. Created a system that I enjoy. I love swimming because for me it's about freedom. I started swimming when my kids were really young, and I have four children. I had four children. I have four children. They were. Four of them under the age of four and a half.

So I have four children who are very close in age, and when they were younger at [00:10:00] times I found it overwhelming having so many small children jumping on me. Now, obviously they were giving me hugs and playing with me, and it was great, but at a certain point I found that it really triggered my defense mechanism and I found myself just feeling a bit like, oh my goodness, I need some space now.

Going swimming. I went swimming when they were doing swimming classes, so the youngest two would go swimming. And I remember once taking them and just sitting up in the top, it was super hot, so uncomfortable, really boring. And me thinking, why aren't I down there swimming? And I started swimming and I would just go up and down in that lane.

Just enjoying the space that it gave me, and that really was the beginning of me loving swimming. And I have to say, I am super lucky because I live near the sea and I love swimming in the sea. So I swim in the pool and I swim in the sea. But swimming for me is. The best way to start the day. You know that Monday morning blues where you [00:11:00] think, oh, it's Monday.

I've got a whole week of work in front of me. I go swimming and I'm like I've been swimming. It's great. I've started my week. Now I can get on with work. So I don't think that you should be getting up and exercising and thinking, oh my goodness, I can do something that I don't really want to do.

I think you should be getting up and exercising and thinking, this is the best part of my day. I'm going for a walk, or I'm going to the gym. I'm doing whatever exercise it is that lights you up. I really enjoy this and I'm getting it in. I'm making time for me. I'm moving my body, giving my body all of these benefits so that I'm gonna have energy and feel good.

And on top of that, it's gonna help me live longer and be vibrant later into life. And you can see that when you make that change, it suddenly becomes so easy. It's never an issue for me to go swimming or to do exercise. The only issue is arranging it around my kids, which now I have a solid routine, so I don't really, it's never really an issue.

So [00:12:00] create a system that works for you. Number two, have the mindset tools to really keep going. And the biggest piece of advice I can give you in terms of the mindset tools is to really focus on your health and wellness. Think about your health and wellness and think about making it enjoyable, both in terms of what you eat and your movement.

And when you can do that, it stops being a chore. It just starts being healthy, enjoyable. Hey, I'm leading my life. I'm doing things that support my health and wellness. I am really achieving all of these things. So going back to you, if you are feeling frustrated, chances are you are nearly there. You just need to make a few changes, but you just don't quite see what those changes are.

Now, partly you can't see those changes because you are inside the bubble. Like you're so busy doing stuff that it's difficult to [00:13:00] go, okay, actually, do you know what? Here's the big problem for you. This is what is holding you back. So if you would like to know what is holding you back. I recommend two things.

Number one, I recommend listening to the video, stop dieting and start thriving. And if that system resonates with you and you think, yeah, like I get what she's saying, this sounds amazing, I would like to do this. Then I invite you to book a free call with me and it tells you on the video how to book a free call.

And in that call, what we will do is chat about you and your life and we will. Get to know each other, and also I will be able to see what are the major things that are holding you back, and you can leave it at there if you want to go, okay, I've got a new perspective on what I need to do to change. Or you can say, yep, I want some support in this, and I'll tell you about my program and tell you how I can support you in a way that is easy and fun and you keep going and you [00:14:00] get results.

Your health in your way, your life in your way, the way that you want to do it. Now, if you do book a call, just one favor that I ask people, please remember that I am a human being. It's just me here running the whole business, doing everything. So if you do book a call, please think of it as a gift from me and think of it as I have paid $300 for this call.

So turn up. If you can't, if an emergency happens, then that's fine. I expect 48 hours of notice, unless obviously there's a medical emergency and I get medical emergencies. But please have the courtesy to say, do you know what? I'm actually gonna turn up or I'm gonna rearrange, but please don't rearrange at the last minute, because that's really inconvenient for me.

So my friends, if you are struggling and you are feeling really frustrated, I suspect that you are really close. To [00:15:00] what you need to do and you just need to have a little bit of perspective to focus on the right things. And so I invite you to watch that video and book a free call and really change your trajectory a little bit, change where you are going so that you actually reach your goal.

Have a fabulous week and I will see you again in two weeks time. Goodbye.

Speaker: hello. Welcome to Fit and Fabulous with me, Dr. Alina. I'm super, super excited to chat to you today. I hope you had a fabulous Easter and that, oh my goodness. Summer is just around the corner. We have a really short term here in Spain, so we have the kids go back to school today. There are four days this week.

Next week we have three days, and then there's about three weeks. Another bank holiday, and then mid-June the kids break up. Oh my goodness. It feels like we are hurtling towards summer, which I'm excited about, but also a little bit like, oh my goodness, time is going so quickly. Today I want to talk to you about [00:16:00] if you are feeling frustrated about weight loss or health, why this might be a really good thing.

So what am I talking about? It might be that you are feeling really frustrated because you want to lose weight and you feel like you are doing so many of the things right? You feel like you are eating healthily, but the weight just isn't shifting or that you are exercising, but the weight that isn't shifting.

Your answer might be, actually, do you know what? In the afternoon I end up eating chocolate and that's not great. Or [00:17:00] I, go out and I socialize and I eat more stuff and that's not great. Now it doesn't really matter what. The situation is within reason, obviously, and without talking to you, I can't tell you exactly what I think.

But this is what I call having a doing gap and not a knowledge gap. More or less what to do. And I caveat more or less because until I've talked to you then it's difficult to say exactly if you're doing things the best way possible. Now, on a side note, if you're not a hundred percent sure that you're doing things the best way possible, then what I recommend you do is watch my free video.

Stop dieting and start thriving. And in that video I explain my system that I use with my clients and the best system for either losing weight or for leading a long and healthy life. And the two of them are [00:18:00] very closely connected. And I will tell you that I walk the walk, I talk the talk. This is how I lead my life.

So go watch that video if you haven't already, just to make sure that you are doing all the things. Because I do know that on the internet life is confusing. I see a lot of conflicting, information about nutrition, about how to exercise, and it can be frustrating if, you know you are getting these mixed messages, what should I actually be doing?

So when I look at my clients and they come and they work with me and they say to me [00:19:00] I don't really understand why what you're saying is anything so different from what I'm doing now. Or they might say to me this is great. It doesn't feel like I'm dieting. It doesn't feel like very much different from what I was doing before, but I'm getting results.

And I think the thing is, what happens is we like to blame certain things in our brain. So for example, if you feel like you are eating healthily in general. And you think but the reason I'm not losing weight is because I'm eating chocolate or because I am socializing and I'm eating different things.

It might be that it's not actually those things that. Are making the big difference. It might be another small shift somewhere else that is going to make a big difference. And when I work with my clients, what I do is apply a system or I help them apply the system to their life. And the reality is [00:20:00] they will make some changes, but the changes don't feel so amazingly big that it feels like you are dieting.

Or that you are doing something that you don't want to do, and this is really what it boils down to. It's number one, making sure that you have a system that works for you that is really ticking all the boxes in terms of moving the needle. So it's a combination of what does science tell us? What are the best things to be doing?

And if you go on internet, Instagram or the social media, you will be told 10,000 billion things. I was watching a reel just before I started this, and it was saying, if you eat this with this, then you get this little boost. And if you eat this with this, then you get a little bit of boost. And I was thinking, that may be true. I'm not a hundred percent sure about all the words that they said, but does it actually make any difference? One of them was like, if you eat broccoli with garlic, then you increase your absorption of calcium. And I think that's great, but [00:21:00] I don't have a problem with calcium. I eat a healthy diet and I get enough calcium, and so I don't need to think about these little minutia details.

If I wanted to eat garlic with broccoli, that's fabulous because it's tasty and it's great, but really. Going to the effort to pair them when I don't need to is making my life more difficult. How about focusing on what I call the low hanging fruit? Now, if you don't know what I mean by that, it's the fruit that is easy to pick that is ripe and going to help you move the needle, essentially.

How do you do that? You make a [00:22:00] system that works for you. If. It doesn't work for you. If it's not something that you find easy and enjoyable, then you're not gonna do it. So when I finished my coaching sessions, I finished one yesterday and I said you've got a plan. Yes. Does it feel doable? Yes.

Does it feel enjoyable? Yes. And if the answer is no to either of those questions, it's wait. Let's go back and have a think about why it either doesn't feel enjoyable or it doesn't feel doable, because those are major obstacles. And if somebody is telling you to do something that doesn't feel doable and it doesn't feel enjoyable you may do it for a little bit and you may even learn to enjoy it or to do it, but there's a big chance that you won't, and that is the danger.

So the keys to. Sustainability in terms of losing weight or being healthy. And there was a paper that was written by the Harvard Medical School, [00:23:00] and this paper is called, oh, let me remember what it's called, how to Lose Weight and Keep It Off. I think something like that. And I love this paper because it is not a difficult paper to understand.

It's not one of your typical medical ones, which is written in medical speak. It's really aimed at. The public as opposed to aiming it at medical professionals. And essentially in this paper, they identify two keys. They basically say there are loads of different ways of losing weight. You need to pick one that works for you.

Now, what they say is that you might need certain tools to be able to do that, but really this is [00:24:00] about consistency. This is about creating a lifestyle that you enjoy and you think, yep, I can do this. This is something that. I enjoy. I want to do, I feel good, I have energy. I can see myself getting stronger and healthier.

I can see my body shape changing, and I can see that I am getting a body that I feel great in and I feel great about. So that step two is really consistency. Keep going. And yes, you do need what they call power tools. I think I would call them mindset tools. A lot of it is how you think about it.

I love exercising. Why? Because I really enjoy it Now, I have built up the habit. I [00:25:00] have. Created a system that I enjoy. I love swimming because for me it's about freedom. I started swimming when my kids were really young, and I have four children. I had four children. I have four children. They were. Four of them under the age of four and a half.

So I have four children who are very close in age, and when they were younger at times I found it overwhelming having so many small children jumping on me. Now, obviously they were giving me hugs and playing with me, and it was great, but at a certain point I found that it really triggered my defense mechanism and I found myself just feeling a bit like, oh my goodness, I need some space now.

Just enjoying the [00:26:00] space that it gave me, and that really was the beginning of me loving swimming. And I have to say, I am super lucky because I live near the sea and I love swimming in the sea. So I swim in the pool and I swim in the sea. But swimming for me is. The best way to start the day. You know that Monday morning blues where you think, oh, it's Monday.

And on top of that, it's gonna help me live [00:27:00] longer and be vibrant later into life. And you can see that when you make that change, it suddenly becomes so easy. It's never an issue for me to go swimming or to do exercise. The only issue is arranging it around my kids, which now I have a solid routine, so I don't really, it's never really an issue.

So create a system that works for you. Number two, have the mindset tools to really keep going. And the biggest piece of advice I can give you in terms of the mindset tools is to really focus on your health and wellness. Think about your health and wellness and think about making it enjoyable, both in terms of what you eat and your movement.

And when you can do that, it stops being a chore. It just starts being healthy, enjoyable. Hey, I'm leading my life. I'm doing things that support my health and wellness. I am really achieving all of these things. So going back to [00:28:00] you, if you are feeling frustrated, chances are you are nearly there. You just need to make a few changes, but you just don't quite see what those changes are.

Now, partly you can't see those changes because you are inside the bubble. Like you're so busy doing stuff that it's difficult to go, okay, actually, do you know what? Here's the big problem for you. This is what is holding you back. So if you would like to know what is holding you back. I recommend two things.

And in that call, what we will do is chat about you and your life and we will. Get to know each other, and also I will be able to [00:29:00] see what are the major things that are holding you back, and you can leave it at there if you want to go, okay, I've got a new perspective on what I need to do to change. Or you can say, yep, I want some support in this, and I'll tell you about my program and tell you how I can support you in a way that is easy and fun and you keep going and you get results.

So turn up. If you can't, if an emergency happens, then that's fine. I expect 48 hours of notice, unless obviously there's a medical emergency and I get medical emergencies. [00:30:00] But please have the courtesy to say, do you know what? I'm actually gonna turn up or I'm gonna rearrange, but please don't rearrange at the last minute, because that's really inconvenient for me.

So my friends, if you are struggling and you are feeling really frustrated, I suspect that you are really close. To what you need to do and you just need to have a little bit of perspective to focus on the right things. And so I invite you to watch that video and book a free call and really change your trajectory a little bit, change where you are going so that you actually reach your goal.

Have a fabulous week and I will see you again in two weeks time. Goodbye.

Why Weight Loss Frustration Is Actually a Good Sign: Your Breakthrough Is Closer Than You Think

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