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Podcast: How to Get Unstuck and Lose Weight Easily

 

Summary of Podcast

Know you need to make changes to lose weight but can't make them and stick to them. You're stuck!

Here are 3 big reasons you might be feeling stuck.

1. You don't know what to do to lose weight
2. You lack motivation 
3. You lack accountability

But here's a bigger question. Why? What's going on underneath so that you lack motivation or accountability? 

Here are 5 questions to ask yourself to get unstuck.

  1. On a scale of 1-10, how important is this for you?
  2. On a scale of 1-10, how much do you believe you’ll get a result?
  3. What’s the best case scenario?
  4. If you trusted yourself, what would you do? 
  5. Why wouldn't you get a result? 

Want to get unstuck with Dr Orlena's help? Book a "getting unstuck call":  https://www.drorlena.com/breakthrough 

 

Transcription of How to Get Unstuck and Lose Weight Easily

Hello. Hello. Hello, Dr. Orlena here. Welcome to fit and fabulous with me, Dr. Orlena Kerek.

 

Introduction

First question, how is it nearly the end of summer? My kids only have just over a week before they go back to school.

I can't believe the summer has flown by, but looking forward to September. September is I think my favorite month of the year. I live on the Costa Brava in Spain and. It's still warm. The beaches are amazing and empty and it's like, Hey, this is our moment where we get to really, really, really enjoy the Costa Brava.

How Do You Get Unstuck When You Want to Lose Weight and Be Healthier?

I want to talk to you about getting unstuck. We're gonna have a little conversation around that, but before I talk to you about getting unstuck, a little update on my ice cream maker, now you may be thinking Dr. Orlena, why do we care about your ice cream maker?

How My Ice Cream Maker Is Helping Me Eat Less Sugar

You do care about my ice cream maker. So the other day I've been experimenting with my ice cream maker. My aim is to make healthy, delicious ice creams. That are that, that fill that spot, you know, that ice cream spot it's hot, it's sunny. You just want something cool and refreshing. And the problem I had was all those ice creams that you buy from the shop they're full of so much sugar and not just sugar, but things like emulsifier, which are, you know, that give it that sort of creamy flavor, that creamy texture, but they're really bad for your gut by 'em.

So they're just not helping you either be healthy or lose weight. and quite frankly, as much as they're delicious, I don't want that in my life all the time. So I bought an ice cream maker to experiment and, you know, as a side note, one of the things that I'm always telling people about is make it fun, make it a game.

And so this is my game. How can I make an ice cream? That is fun. So anyhow, you may, if you're in the Facebook group, you will have seen that. I posted a photograph of some chocolate ice cream I made now, how did I make. Right. I made it with eggplant. I'm saying this word eggplant slowly, because people always say to me, we have no idea what you're saying when you say “aubergine”.

So if you're from the UK aubergine, if you're from the US eggplant, cook it up a little bit, just in a bit of water whe that up. And that becomes a really great base for either some kind of dessert. Some you can kind of make cake from it as well. Obviously it's not cake, cake. Don't think absolute cake. But in this case I decided I was gonna make it into chocolate ice cream.

Now I make a really lovely, fake Nutella, which is Hazel nuts. Some dates, some chocolate, some cocoa powder, bit of olive oil and whiz that all up. So I was kind of going along that idea. I think I put the aubergine in some cocoa powder in, I didn't have any hazelnut, so I put walnuts. A little bit of vanilla. And I put some raisins in, I think for a little bit of sweetness or I could probably put some fruit in.

I can't quite remember, but anyhow, I thought it was delicious and amazing and really hit that. Hey, it's hot. It's three in the afternoon. I I'm gonna enjoy my ice cream. And I thought it was tasty and lovely. Now guess what? My kids did not like it. Well, some of them did, but it wasn't like. I really love this ice cream, not like the, you know, my kids are normal kids.

What’s the Difference Between Shop Bought Ice Cream and Home Made Ice Cream?

They love ice cream. Now the question becomes why, and I think there's two things going on here. There's number one, there's sort of block in their head. So I have one son who's like, I don't like any homemade ice cream, even if it's got loads of sugar in it. Even if it is super, super tasty, I point blank refused to try anything that comes out of your ice cream maker.

Even if my older brother has made it older, brother puts lots of sugar into everything. so one is the way they think about it. But number two, being really honest is the sugar content is that, you know, they equate ice cream with sugar and you know, they're normal kids. It is normal for children to be what I call glucose, seeking missile health.

It’s Normal for People to Seek Glucose and Sugar

In fact, let's be really honest. It's normal for adults to be glucose seeking missile health, but here's the good news when you get used to life without sugar. It's easy. It's fun. It's like, I don't really notice that there's a big difference between one ice cream and the other ice cream. Now, what I would say is I have trained myself to think this, I have trained myself to enjoy the flavor without the sugar.

And yes, when I eat things that are sugary, I notice that they are much, much sweeter, but I don't think, oh, that's so much more enjoyable because I can appreciate the other, the less sugary things, the things with, you know, naturally occurring fruit. so my friends, why am I telling you this? Because it's better.

On the other side, it is so much better. On the other side, you can have your healthy, delicious cake and eat it. You really, really can. Okay. You can't because you've eaten it. I totally get that. But you know, you can't, whatever it is that you love in life, whether it's pizza or. I dunno, ice cream or cookies or cake, you can make healthy alternatives and enjoy those healthy alternatives.

Now, what I would say is if you carry on doing all of the things as you are doing right now and just make those healthy alternatives, you are not gonna enjoy them so much because you're constantly comparing them to processed and shop bought food. Whereas if you change, everything can change the way you eat.

What is Stopping You From Losing Weight?

It sounds daunting. It sounds scary, but actually. when you've been doing it for a really short period of time. It's easy. It's fun. You enjoy it. You get into the swing of things. You love it. I put a question. Out on Facebook, which was what is one word that is stopping you from losing weight? And I asked this question to you, I'm gonna ask this question in a minute.

And somebody said commitment to healthy eating. And I'm like, oh, I get that. But how about you've reframed that and think about enjoying healthy eating, because when you enjoy it, it's easy to do you enjoy it. So you do it and you can enjoy healthy eating. Okay. So there's my little rant about sugar and how, you know, get rid of sugar, enjoy healthy eating.

So here's, here's what I really want to talk to you about today. And that is what is keeping you stuck. Now, if you are doing really well on your health journey, you don't need to listen to this podcast, but the vast majority of people who I chat. are feeling stuck either in losing weight or getting more healthy or both because let's face it.

What Is Keeping You From Making Healthy Changes so you Can Lose Weight

One really big reason to lose weight is to become more healthy. So why is it that people feel stuck? What is going on for you? If you feel stuck and this might be because you have tried things before and had some success. And then life gets, goes back to how it was. Life is always busy. Lifeing it might be that you have tried some things and you haven't seen the results that you want.

When You Say Nothing Works, You Can’t Make Changes

And that is super, super, super demoralizing because you're there going, oh my goodness, this isn't working. So I'm in a Facebook group and people in that were talking about how they've stopped. binge eating and haven't noticed any difference. Stop binge, eating, eating more. Healthly haven't noticed any difference.

When You Make Changes and See Results it Spurs You On

And it's super frustrating because the reverse is if you make some changes and you see some results, it spurs you on to do more and to do more. Cause you can see, Hey, it's working. I know I'm gonna do I'm on a roll. Now, one thing I would say is. Think about that connection because yes, we are constantly judging what we're doing because we are looking for those instant results and really, and truly we are creating a false connection there because it's not setting yourself up for success in that there's a compound effect as well.

We Expect Instant Results and Feel Demoralised if We Don’t Get them

And. The things that we do. Yes. We get results, but we may not notice those things instantly. So we sort of think, yeah, what I did today means I'm gonna lose weight or gain weight tomorrow, but it might not be as simple as that. It might be the things that you did a few da days ago. It isn't as simple as Hey.

this is what I did. I've lost a bit of weight. You can't see the weight coming off. You not on a daily basis. Yes. You may want to weigh yourself every single day. Personally, I don't recommend that, but there's this connection that we have that we create in our brains of, this is what I did. This is the outcome.

Concentrate on What You’re Doing

And if you can break that connection and just concentrate on what you are doing and what you are in charge of and sporadically, look at the results. you're gonna be doing much better now. That is, of course, if you're doing the right things, there are some wrong things that you can do. So when I ask people this question, why are you feeling stuck?

3 Reasons You’re Feeling Stuck

There are three big answers that I hear.

1. Not Knowing What to Do

And number one is not knowing exactly what it is that I have to do. And yes, that is tricky. And I think that question is not just broad strokes, so most people know roughly what they need to do, but it's about applying it to your life. And what does that actually look like in your life?

2. Lack of Motivation

So I think that's one big problem. now the other two things that I see that people see frequently is I lack motivation.

3. Lack of Accountability

And the third one is I lack accountability. So on the surface level, those are the three big reasons that people get stuck. They don't know exactly what to do. They lack motivation.

They lack accountability. And yes, all of those things are true in that. If you have somebody who tells you what to do and somebody who is gonna help you feel accountable and somebody who is going to help you feel motivated, then yes, you are going to start making. progress.

My Program Healthy You Healthy Family Offers All 3!

And in fact, that's exactly what I offer in my healthy, you healthy family program.

And I'll tell you a little bit about that, but essentially what I offer in my group program and the people who are in the group program get amazing results is I offer expertise. I offer accountability and I offer motivation. But before I just tell you a little bit about that, what I really want to talk about is, Hey, you know what that is.

What is the Deeper Reason?

The surface, there is something else going on. And so when you decide which one or all of those three things apply to you, there's another question to ask. And that question is why, why do you lack accountability? Why do you lack motivation? And then really, you know, why do you not know what to do? What is the thing that is going on underneath?

Do You Fear Something?

And a lot of the. It might be fear, fear of something. It might be fear of change. It might be fear of failure. It might be fear of being hunger. It might be fear of being overwhelmed, but there is something else going on underneath now. I can't tell you what it is without talking to you, but when you think about the possibility.

Consistently Apply Changes to the 4 Pillars and You’ll See Results

what can happen. And I promise you that can happen if you consistently make changes, apply my healthy, my four pillars. So just to recap, if you haven't heard them, you must be new to the podcast. So the four pillars are healthy, eating, loving, healthy, eating exercise that lights you up, delicious, healthy sleep, and emotional wellness.

And that includes your stress levels. It includes emotional eating your relationship with food and with yourself as. so those four pillars. So if you apply those, you will get results. You will see a difference. There is no doubt in my mind about this. This is what all the evidence says. And what happens to people is they do not apply these consistently.

And that is the problem. And yes, it might be that you have to tweak things and what looks healthy for one person it's slightly different for another. And what works for one person doesn't work for another one. So there's lots of ways of doing it, but if you focus on those four pillar, You will get results.

Do You Want to Get to Healthy Amazing You?

So when you do that, you can look at, Hey, what does life look like? Amazing Fe you know, energy levels going up, feeling. Awesome watching the weight naturally fall off. And another thing I think is amazing is you get like your brain back, your brain stops feeling hijacked, and you start enjoying your life.

You start loving your life, you start doing things that you really, really enjoy. And I think that that is one of the biggest things that when people really think about making changes underneath what is driving people is saying, yeah, I want to be. That is really, really, really at the bottom. I want to be happy.

Do You Want to Create A Healthy Life You Love?

I want to lead long and fulfilling life, whatever that looks like for you. For me, it looks like swimming in the Mediterranean every day. I saw a more, a eels day. Hurry. so here's a question. Here are some questions to ask you yourself, if you are not sure if you're thinking, okay, this makes sense, but I'm not a hundred percent sure what is going on because you might not be sure.

And you know, when I talk to people about joining my program, this is an interesting thing, and I know I do this myself. You're presented with this opportunity. You're presented with this thing that you want to do. And if it's a monetary. Your brain just equates it to money. Now what's really going on is all kinds of other things.

But I know that what my brain does is it sort of feels all these things in a flash, in an instant, and then it just goes, okay, is this worth this amount of money or not? Am I prepared to pay this amount of money or not? And really there's other questions that are going on in my brain, such as what time commitment is involved and.

What do I have to do to do this? What are, is this gonna work for me? Is this just gonna be yet another thing that isn't going to work for me, that's going to be a waste of time. And all of these things are going on in my brain. And what my brain says to me is you'll pay this much, but not this much for it.

So that's how our brain works. There's a lot of things going underneath that we aren't really sure of. So when you are standing here thinking, okay, I want to make healthy changes. Here is possibility. Here is healthy. Amazing. On the other hand here is carrying on not making changes. I know what I'm gonna get.

I'm gonna get the same or worse because if you don't make changes, it might be that, you know, you lack mobility later on in life or you get ill. So we can't say exactly what the outcome is gonna be, but what we can say is if you don't make changes, Your life carries on the same or gets worse.

Questions to Ask Yourself to Get Unstuck

So here are the questions to help you dig deep and think, okay, what is going on?

1. On a scale of 1-10, how important is this for you?

Why am I feeling stuck? So I think number one is on a scale of one to 10. How important is this for you? Is it important for you to get to health of you? Do you really want that or are you happy as you are now? you need to decide, because if you say, do you know what actually being healthy is only worth one out of 10 to me, then clearly you can see why you aren't going to make changes.

Now, on the other hand, if you say, do you know what? This is actually worth 10 out of 10 for me, I can see all the benefits. I'm gonna be health. I'm going to demonstrate healthiness to all the people around me. They're going to benefit. They're gonna get much healthier. Me. This is really what I want. This is 10 out of 10.

This is super important for. then you need to have another think and think, okay, why, why aren't I doing this?

  1. On a scale of 1-10, how much do you believe you’ll get a result?

So on a scale of one to 10, how much do you believe you'll get a result? So do you think one out of 10, I'm not gonna get a result? Well, if that's the way you are thinking you are not gonna make changes.

If on the other hand, you think 10 out of 10. Yes, I am gonna make, make changes. Why aren't you doing it? If you believe in yourself, why aren't you doing it? And it might be that you need help to do that. I personally think the vast majority of people need some help in whatever form that comes, but it is difficult to change habits, which is essentially what we're talking about by yourself.

Why? Because other habits, your old habits always come back and that's what happens. And that's when you start thinking, oh my goodness, I'm defeated. I can't do this. Okay. Here's another question.

3. What’s the best case scenario?

What's the best case scenario. And you can have a think about that. Like, I think what we tend to do when we don't want to make changes, we think of the best case scenario.

If we don't make changes and the worst case scenario, if we do make changes, but what you really have to do is think of the worst and the best of either of them. So if I make changes, what's the best case scenario. I get that life that I want. I feel amazing. I. the energy I watched my energy levels go up.

I watch my weight go down and I get to healthiness. Now the worst case scenario is you don't actually make those changes and things carry on as they are. You can do the same for if you don't make changes. Best case scenario is things carry on as they are. You don't get unwell. Worst case scenario. you do getting 'em well, things get much, much worse.

So I always think what is the best case scenario, if you do make changes? Yes. And do you know what? I also believe that people can get to best case scenario. Now, I think a lot of people want to get to best case scenario in about two months, but it's not about two months. It's about. A year, two years, three years down the line.

It's about, yes, I can get there. Okay. It might take me a little bit longer than I want because everybody wants something, everything super, super quickly. But no, this is about sustainability and doing it forever and continuing to enjoy it and always enjoying your life. Amazing. Amazing. Okay. What other questions do I have to ask you?

4. If you trusted yourself, what would you do?

If you trusted yourself, would you make changes? And I think the answer to that is really telling. So if you trusted yourself, what would you do? Would you make changes? And here's another question.

5. Why wouldn't you get a result?

If you decide to make changes, why wouldn't you get a result?

so some super questions to just help you delve a little bit down and think, okay, why aren't I making changes? Yes. On the surface level it's to do with, I don't know what to do. I lack motivation. I lack accountability, but further down, digging deep, there is something else going on and holding you back from making changes.

And it might just be that you don't believe in yourself and you need a little bit of confidence or you need some. So, let me just recap those questions on a scale of one to 10, how much do you believe you can get a result? Sorry. On a tech scale of one to 10, how important is this to you on a scale of one to 10?

How much do you believe you'll get a result? What's the best case scenario. If you trusted yourself, what would you do? And lastly, why wouldn't you get a result? And if you answer those questions, You will begin to understand why you aren't making changes. And I hope that you will start to make changes. So if you are interested in making changes and you would like me to go through this process with you.

Want to Get Unstuck with Dr Orlena’s Help? Book a Free Call

Through the month of September, I am offering a getting unstuck call. Now, who is this for? This is for busy women, 40 to 60, who are feeling stuck. They want to lose weight. You want to lose weight. You want to get healthy. You want to do it in a sustainable way. You want increased energy levels. You want to change your life.

And love your life and create healthy, amazing you so that you can lead a long and fulfilling life and get confidence and get happiness, but you're feeling stuck and you know that you can't do it without help. So if that sounds like you book one of these calls and here's what will happen when you book the call, you get you go to the URL, the link, you pick your time on the calendar, and then.

It will send you some videos to watch, which are just little videos chatting about what the call will be like. And you'll also get a PDF called inspiring stories. Now turn and you'll have to answer some questions as well, just so that I get to know you a little bit, because my time is valuable and I'm happy to spend this time with you, but I want to make the most of it for me and you.

And then during the call, this is what we will talk about. We will talk about where you are and we will delve into these questions and. Why are you not getting results? Why are you feeling stuck? We will talk about where you want to get to and what you would like healthy, amazing you to look like and why you want all of the things.

What does your amazing healthy life look like? And then thirdly, if we are both happy and you want some support and you want to know about my healthy, you healthy family group program, I will tell you about that. Now let me be clear. I will tell you about that. I will tell you about the services I. You are under no obligation to come and join.

Although why wouldn't you want to? It's an amazing, amazing program. And the ladies who are in it get fabulous results. They keep showing up. They are, they have gone from frustrated, tired, too much weight to fixing their relationship with food. We do a lot of work on emotional eating to all of those pillars.

Healthy eating exercise, sleep, emotional wellness so that they love their life. They do it all on autopilot. Weight falls off energy levels. Go up with accountability. Motivation. Those are the two big keys and obviously expertise, which is telling you what to do. When, so through the month of September book, a getting unstuck call it's an hour long.

Yes. I'm asking for an hour. It's a commitment. This is my free gift to you in September. . I dunno if I'll carry on doing this, but for September, this is what I'm doing. So you can book now for September, I would love to chat to you. And if you don't want to work, work with me, that's absolutely fine. You will walk away with clarity.

You will understand why you are stuck and you will get direction in. What to move, what to do, moving forwards. And you know, if you do want to think about working with me, then this is the beginning step of an amazing journey. And I think of one of my clients now who nearly didn't book that call, I know that she hesitated, she hesitated, she hesitated, and eventually she just went, okay, I'm gonna do this click.

And she is so glad that she did, because if she hadn't made that. she wouldn't be where she is now loving her amazing life. So my invitation to you through the month of September book are getting unstuck call. I look forward to chatting to you. Okay. Have a fabulous day. Bye-bye.

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